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Are you a porn addict or just a book addict?

18/4/2013

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This work is in the public domain: Franz von Bayros. Sweet Snail circa 1910
Can you tell what naughtiness someone's been watching in their spare time from what they like to read or, if they're an author, from what they write?

I've seen a comment recently where exactly that was declared. That many erotic scenes are written to appeal to readers who have seen so much porn that they automatically connect the written scene with the visual ones in their memory bank.




So apparently...ahem...if you love details in those sex scenes you read or write, it's all due to the porn you watch. 
Tut tut. No more clits or rampant cocks for you, dear readers, we must draw back and watch from afar.

I tend to have a more broad-minded attitude here, and I actually, strangely, believe that different people get aroused by different things, and that different people actually have their own minds that aren't clones of this person who disdains porn as being non-erotic.

Though I do agree that porn can be so overly manufactured that it sometimes looks like all the participants are only going through the motions for the camera. A bit of true lust and mutual attraction goes a long way toward making videos truly erotic.

I'm curious as to whether others think most sex scenes in books are written to cater to people who watch too much porn.

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Sara Stanton link
18/4/2013 03:01:13 pm

I am doing a Scooby Doo head tilt with this one. Book sex scenes catered to people who watch too much porn? Did someone actually say that?

I don't think they are comparable. For me, when I read a scene in a book I am there. The emotions (if it is well written of course) flow from the words on the page and are now mine. I feel it, it is a huge turn on. I can't lie about that at all. There is more of a connection through sex scenes in a book for me because you get inside the heads of the characters, you know what they are feeling. You get that first tingle, that breathless desire and build with them until the release. Each emotion is clear on the page whether it's a virgin's first time, a BDSM scene etc.

Porn, it gets the job done. It's more of an instant gratification deal. Some are better than others. Just like everything produced, you have the good, the bad and the laughable. I don't know any of my friends who have wanted to read a book because they watch too much porn. More so they want to watch porn to find THAT scene from xyz book.

Not sure I answered anything with that or I just went on a rant?

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Cari Silverwood
18/4/2013 04:02:58 pm

Yes, Sara, someone did say that. And I did a Scooby Doo head tilt too, and a Grrr. I found it insulting to me as a writer, and to my readers. I like to write in details for the reason you mentioned - so as to immerse myself and the readers in the scene. But not as spectators, as participants. In a good story, you're inside the mind of the character.

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Cal Mathews
5/5/2013 01:31:45 pm

How about putting some pictures opposite chapter beginnings like Sweet Snail circa 1910 which I think are very appropriate for entertainment within a book. Cartoons even. Teases like a cover but leading into that chapter.

I am afraid I have both an appreciation of porn art as well liking erotic books that are more than a romance with a HEA. I want a message, an effective plot, and the opportunity to become educated about the subject just like the author was in order to write the story. I know, I do want a lot but I also love the story afterwards. That is enough to make me recommend, review, reread and share the story, enthusiastically. I like your books.....a lot.

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Cari Silverwood
5/5/2013 09:54:26 pm

Thank you, Cal.
I too like both porn and erotic scenes, it was the way they were referred to in a derogatory way that got me annoyed, as well as the assumption that everyone is the same and like robots, or Pavlov's dog.
Pictures in erotic romances/erotica books are certainly possible with Ebooks. Finding ones that are as gorgeous as the one here is difficult. Though Franz Von Bayros has a lot of these drawings covered by Creative Commons license, I'd be wary of using them in a book. Copyright can be tricky. If I found the right story and an artist ...it would be possible though. Interesting suggestion there.

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Cari silverwood
5/5/2013 10:08:59 pm

Correction, the drawing is in the public domain. Not being a lawyer, I'd want to be quadruple sure before sticking these drawings in a book though.

Carocaro
5/5/2013 05:19:21 pm

I firmly believe some people are visual learners and responders and porn is the visual stimulation for them. Sorry this is slightly stereotyping but more men than women respond to visual porn. Not to say all people can or can't, just natural preferences.
Then others are cerebral learners, thought and imagination are stimulated through reading which takes them along with the story to the capacity of feeling things the characters feel even if once removed. The writer creates the medium for that to happen. The better the writer at description and detail the more stimulation and with erotica and BDSM it is possible for people to become sexually aroused and on occasion even orgasm through reading without manual stimulation at all. I have. When the clenching is so strong it goes to the orgasm level. Bliss:)

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Cari silverwood
5/5/2013 10:07:28 pm

That idea that men respond more to visual porn may not be true. One study showed that women do respond and get aroused by pictures, though they may not reveal it in obvious ways.
http://www.newscientist.com/article/dn10213-women-become-sexually-aroused-as-quickly-as-men.html

But then this post separates out physical and mental arousal.
http://www.newscientist.com/article/dn10213-women-become-sexually-aroused-as-quickly-as-men.html

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